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Accepting the Bad Days

Learning to acceptI have to learn to accept the bad days.
This is something I am terrible at, it feels like I’m going to feel/be like this forever and I am never going to get anything done, or want to get anything done again. I might even stomp my foot and pout! I am going to lie here in my sofa that has become uncomfortable and feel sorry for myself forever.  Nothing is fun, and anything I want to do quickly gets aborted because of exhaustion/pain/fever/nausea or whatever it might be today.

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I am having one of those bad days, can you tell?
Yesterday I woke up with a fever because I am allergic to pollen and all the birches (aka my nemesis)  had decided to suddenly awaken. So I got a handle on that and today I don’t have a fever, I have menstrual cramps and everything that comes with that, dizziness, nausea, lack of appetite and a mild depressive state. And the pain, the horrible pain, I have got it under control but it’s not like its not there in the back of my mind (uterus) at all times. And tomorrow I know is the day I bleed the most, and I will feel much better but I know that as soon as I try to do anything I will become dizzy, nauseous and exhausted, and the best thing to do is… sit still… on the couch… again.

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This, the writing is actually helping, but that was not the point. I need to learn to humbly accept the bad days, do what I can with them, hope for better days and move on.
Humbly. Im way better at sarcastically.
As I have been researching service dogs I have come across two women that I can learn so much about this from, Jaquie from Chronically Jaquie and Mary from The Frey Life. They have service dogs because they have medical issues. I am so humbled and totally in awe about how they deal with their illnesses and their bad days. I will try to learn from them

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I have to stop comparing myself to others, well or unwell, whatever I think “society” expects of me and see to what I feel and what I can do.

I’m not sure how to go about this, right now I am mostly feeling resentful that all my weekend plans got screwed, drowned, fu cancelled, trying to breath deeply, accept the situation and be happy for the little things. This lovely cup of coffee for example, that is making me nauseous. I need to work on it. Obviously.

today suckedAfter doing some internet research I think I have come up with a loose strategy.
When reading what other people have written about “bad days” it first made me really sad, reading about people with, what I perceive as, worse things than me, and then horribly mad, reading about people who thinks that it’s all in your mind and “you just have to think positive”, excuse me, obviously they missed a whole category of people with actual problems!!
I don’t think the striking out of the words I want to say about those people will be enough… so I won’t say anything.
And then I came to a more calm and accepting stage, better right.

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So my loose strategy is.

  • To accept the situation, so, I can do those weekend plans another day.
  • Try to feel the feelings, calmly and accurately, no exaggerating or diminishing, and move on, if possible, no pressure.
  • Do things I know will make me feel better, the nature/bath/relaxing things, not the shopping/comfort eating things.
  • Try to move about, just change location, or go stand in the front door smelling the air for a while. Or as my mom says, “get some sunlight in your eyes”.
  • And do fun things that will take my mind off the bad day for a little while, like a great (not sad!) movie or a captivating computer game.
  • Don’t beat myself up about it if I fail at any of these things, as I said, move on, try again, work on it.
  • This too shall pass.
  • Breathe.

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Trying a TENS Machine

Tens Machine

Hello! So I said I was going to do an update on how the TENS machine worked for my period pain when I had tried it out a bit. And now I have.

 

For you who does not know a TENS machine is a Transcutaneous Electrical Nerve Stimulation, oh doesn’t that sound lovely. The thing with it is that is has the capability to disrupt the pain signals from, for example in my case menstrual cramps, which then lessens or totally removes the pain. aigbgymnhj7obqgkreuu
Sounds fantastic right, as the people from Livia, a company who have designed a very small, cute and portable TENS just for menstrual cramps (which I have never tried), says “an off switch for your period pain”. NO! No it is not! Do not make the mistake of believing that. (I do believe the Livia is a great product though) You are in a sense running a weak electrical current through your body, you can feel it, if you do it wrong it hurts. (And if you touch the electrodes while the machine is turned on but they are not attached to you, you shock yourself, I have done that twice now, ow.)
So what does it feel like then? Well you connect two electrodes that look like band aids with cords attached, on either side of the pain/uterus, and then you turn the machine on, and slowly raise the current.
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First nothing happens,
and then it starts to tingle,
and then it starts to tingle quite a lot,
a bit like pressure, or lots of tiny hands massaging you. Still sounds quite nice, yes, but the thing is you have to raise the current until the feeling of the TENS is more obvious than the pain, and that in itself can be quite painful, in a totally different way. But, you get used to the feeling, and soon you don’t know it’s there, and if you turn the machine on while the pain still quite low, it never really kicks in as bad, and you don’t have to turn the TENS machine on as high.
A huge plus with this thing, is that you can use it as much as you want, and never overdose! Keep it on all day if you need to.
A small negative is that you have electrical cords running from your stomach to the machine that you have to keep track of and preferably not get tangled in anything.

So to recap:

  • It really does work!
  • It’s NOT an of switch for pain
  • Put it on as soon as possible
  • Keep track of the cords
  • Dont shock yourself
  • No need for any painkillers 🙂

I have just lived through my first period cramps without painkillers… ever!
8a92f62294cdd03def8f56de87da0dc8When I was younger it was not so bad, and over the counter painkillers worked fine, but it has escalated with my age (I personally think my uterus is taking out its revenge on me for not having kids) and for the last years I have taken strong prescribed pills with kodein in them (yes it rhymes with morphine for a reason) which made me sleepy and woozy and never even really got rid of the pain, just dulled it.
And this month I took…. noting!
Not even a stinking Alvedon!! (non swedes, it’s the most non evasive and mild painkiller ever)
But, having my period is still a pain, ha ha, in the butt (read uterus), I get really tired, nauseous, and I bleed a lot, so taking care of a Niagara falls of blood is also a chore, two words: menstrual cup! Three words: another post entirely.

I love this thing and I’m sticking with it, this is the one I got on loan (red), and this is the one (teal) I will be getting when I have to give the red one back.
It’s basically the same machine but with fewer features.


I so do recommend this! Its way better than having to take strong pills with side effects. And as an added feature, it works on all kinds of pain, and improves blood circulation. I also use it on my shoulders.
Have a happy/er period everyone!


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The 5 Stages of Menstruation

At least for me. Hence the few days there is no blogpost each month. Educational.

1: The rollercoaster of hormones, mostly downhill, with stops for unhealthy snacks and nausea at regular intervals.roller-coaster-ftr

2: The waiting for the bloody, hehe, thing to start so the hormones can calm down!instagramperiodarticle_1ah9mdh-1ah9me5

3: The excruciating pain of my uterus trying to avenge me for, yet again, failing to become pregnant (we disagree on that point my uterus and I), which I, seriously, get morphine prescribed for, that, seriously, only dulls it. pexels-photo-143654 copy

4: And then we have the scene from “The Shining”, the opening of the floodgates, oh excuse me, elevator doors. Do not sneeze during this stage!the-shining-cruise-blood-ship

5: Then everything slowly levels out, except my blood levels of course, which I spend a month, with the aid of iron supplements, to try to replenish until the whole thing starts over again!!! Fuel-gauge-300x178

the 5 srages of menstruarion


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